It’s Okay, Not To Be Okay

Often people ask us how we are doing, we instinctively say that we are okay. It’s like saying those words makes up how we feel. No one will ask or care beyond that point right? Is it that we have become so busy and so consumed in our own worries and in our own concerns that we do not have the time to worry about others? In a world that is so used to technology and instant gratification, do we even have the time to wait for an answer? The bible says that the love of many will grow cold.

According to the magazine,  Live Science, Every year, 1 million adults report making a suicide attempt, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Worldwide, 800,000 people die due to suicide every year, according to the World Health Organization (WHO).Aug 10, 2017

The statistics are alarming as well as very real. There are people everyday around us crying out for help. It may be when they isolate themselves, or do things excessively. Depression is not always shown in sadness. According to an article by Mental Health Today, the following criteria meets the Major Depressive Disorder.

DSM-IV Criteria for Major Depressive Disorder (MDD)
• Depressed mood or a loss of interest or pleasure in daily activities for more than two weeks.
• Mood represents a change from the person’s baseline.
• Impaired function: social, occupational, educational.
• Specific symptoms, at least 5 of these 9, present nearly every day:
1. Depressed mood or irritable most of the day, nearly every day, as indicated by either subjective report
(e.g., feels sad or empty) or observation made by others (e.g., appears tearful).
2. Decreased interest or pleasure in most activities, most of each day
3. Significant weight change (5%) or change in appetite
4. Change in sleep: Insomnia or hypersomnia
5. Change in activity: Psychomotor agitation or retardation
6. Fatigue or loss of energy
7. Guilt/worthlessness: Feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate guilt
8. Concentration: diminished ability to think or concentrate, or more indecisiveness
9. Suicidality: Thoughts of death or suicide, or has suicide plan

So is it okay, not to be okay? Has  depressive symptoms become so taboo, to be mentally ill that people are afraid to tell you that they’re not okay? Is it only when the person, unfortunately decides to take their life, that we’ve start to wonder what signs were missed? Do you know someone that is not okay? Are you the one who’s afraid to say I’m not ok, because you don’t want others to assume your crazy or need help? If so, I would say you do need help. However, the assumption can’t be made that everyone who feels like giving up or who is suffering from depression is suicidal. I think when you reach the point where you feel like suicide is your only choice, that’s the point where you feel hopeless, you feel that there is no need to go on because no one loves you and no one cares. And in some cases, it really is a mental illness.

Again, I will stress that this is not always the case. A person may feel alone, and just needs to hear that they are not alone. A person may feel sad at times or may be going through a rough patch, and all it takes is knowing that there’s someone there who cares enough to help them through those rough times. For others, it may be a lack of prayer, losing their spirituality, and a loss of just not knowing who Jesus Christ is. Those are the people who have lost hope, in reality they’re just struggling to see if it’s still there.

Matthew 24:12 

New Living Translation

Sin will be rampant everywhere, and the love of many will grow cold.

If you or someone you know needs help, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).


*Live Science; Suicide: Statistics, Warning Signs and Prevention

*Mental health Today Article; DSM-IV Criteria for Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) 


Would you agree that it is okay, to be okay? Have you ever not been okay? When did you notice you weren’t okay? How did you make it through? 

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